Monthly Archives: November 2012

The right thing 正確的事情

At the end of my silence practice, Wolfgang and I were enjoying a nice conversation. At some point he was telling me that after finding out what is the right for you, you still find yourself doing something else because the right thing turns out to be hard.

It reminded me of a wonderful story that I have to share with you.

It happened once that a very religious, pious person decided to go for a retreat in the mountains. He was determined to meet God at this retreat, and was sincerely meditating and praying for many hours daily, only taking a break for showers, food and a brisk walk in the area.

On a certain day, the man was in deep contemplation during his walk. Not paying much attention to his surroundings, he slipped and fell off a cliff. In a reflex he managed to grab hold of a tree root, but he had no strength to pull himself up. He started calling out loud: “God. I am your humble servant. Please save me!”. Suddenly, a thundering voice from the sky replied: “Oh My child, let go and I will save you!”, at which the man yelled out: “Is there anyone else who can save me?!”

Do let me know in the comments if you would let go or not! I would perhaps be crazy enough to let go.

在結束守靜練習後,我和Wolfgang開始一段愉快的對話。在談話當中,他提到當人們找到對自己而言正確的事情後,卻發現自己仍然採用其他選擇,因為正確的事往往也是困難的事。

這讓我想起一個故事,在此和大家分享。

曾經有個非常虔誠的男子決定到深山裡修行。他下定決心,在這場修行中,他一定要和上帝相會。為此他每天花上好幾個小時誠心地靜坐祈禱,只有在沐浴、進食和快走時才休息。

有一天,這個人在快走時陷入深刻的沈思。他沒有注意,一個不小心腳滑,從懸崖頂跌下。他很快地抓住一棵樹的樹根,卻沒有力氣將自己拉回懸崖頂。男子開始大叫:「上帝啊,我是你謙卑的僕人,請救救我吧!」突然間,從天際響起一陣如雷的回應:「我的孩子啊,放手吧,我會救你的。」此時男子大叫:「還有沒有別人可以救我?」

我想我可能真的會放手。你呢?請留言告訴我,如果是你,你會放手嗎?

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Alone, not lonely 獨處,但不寂寞

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Part 3

So yesterday I finished a three weeks practice of silence in North Germany and I was in essence all alone. When I did the same thing last year, the most common question asked was “Didn’t you miss your girlfriend, family members, friends, etc.?” The simple answer is “No”, but it is interesting to know why.

This year in my practice, I twice found myself crying out of gratitude for the presence of all the beautiful people in my life. I do not know if you have ever experienced this, but I can tell you it is wonderful.

The question is whether or not this sort of experience can happen only when you are in silence. I am sure that the answer is no, but silence in the way that I practiced definitely stimulates such an experience.

In my native language (Dutch) there is a saying which translated into English goes “Whatever the heart is full of, the mouth spills”. This is not true. In actuality, whatever the head is full of, the mouth spills; and whatever the heart is full of, the eyes spill.

In our daily life, our minds are filled with many many impressions. They come from our experiences at work, world news, entertainment, etc. There is nothing wrong with these impressions, but they do fill your head and make your mouth spill them. Then meaningful conversations with your loved ones remain few and the true blessing of your relationship is hard to feel.

I remember that a few weeks before I entered into silence I was at a restaurant with two friends. I was in more of listening mood on that day and I was surprised by and interested in what I heard. In one hour of talking, nothing was said! When I asked them then and there if they remembered what they had talked about, they said no! I wonder if they even remember that we went to dinner…

In a prolonged period of silence, the mind can process the daily impressions because you don’t give it any new ones. Then it becomes easy to come in touch with your feelings and you may find yourself crying out of gratitude. And then you do not miss those you love.

If I could make a suggestion to you, it would be to contemplate on the beautiful people in your life and to allow yourself to feel what you feel for them. You will be pleasantly surprised, I promise.

There is much more to say about my silence practice, but since I don’t want to bore you, I will write about it in the next post.

Part 1 – 本文
Part 2
Part 3

昨天我結束在德國北部、為期三週的守靜練習。這段期間裡,我基本上是完全獨自一人。去年我做完同樣的守靜練習之後,人們最常問我的問題包括:「你不想念你的女朋友、家人、朋友嗎?」我的回答很簡單:「不會」,但是箇中原由是很有意思的。

今年的守靜期間,我有兩度因為我生命中那些美妙的人們的存在,而感激流淚。我不知道你是否曾有相似的經歷,我只能說,那是個再美妙不過的體驗。

問題在於,這樣的經驗是否只有在守靜時才會發生。我相信答案是否定的,但是我的守靜練習確實激發了這樣的經驗。

在我的母語(荷語)裡,有一句俗語若翻譯為中文是:「那些充滿心中的,將從口中溢出。」但那並非真的。事實上,那些充滿腦中的,將從口中溢出,而那些充滿心中的,將從眼中流出。

在日常生活中,我們的心靈總是充滿許多印記,它們來自於工作經驗、世界新聞動態、日常娛樂等。這些印記本身沒有錯,但它們充滿你的腦中,而從你的口中流出。人們幾乎不曾和所愛的人進行一場有意義的對話,依然難以感受一段情感關係中最真切的祝福。

在我開始守靜前幾個星期,我和兩個朋友在餐廳裡聚會。那天我很有傾聽他人的興緻,而我所聽到的對話,讓我感到既驚訝又有趣。在整整一個小時的談話中,他們卻沒有真正說些什麼!當我問這兩個朋友是否記得自己說了什麼時,他們的回答都是「不記得!」我甚至不確定他們是否記得我們去了那家餐廳….

在一段長期的靜默中,心靈能夠處理這些日常生活累積而來的印記,因為此時你不再添加新的印記。你變得較能夠去體會自己的感受,而你可能發現自己正因感激而流淚。那時候,你並不想念那些你愛的人。

如果我可以給大家一些建議,我會建議你,去想想那些你生命中美妙的人們,容許自己深刻體會對他們的情感。我保證,你將經歷一場妙美妙驚奇的體驗。.

關於守靜,我還有很多心得想和大家分享,但我不希望大家感到無聊,所以就留待下次再談吧!

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Sharing my experiences 分享個人經驗

Dear friends,

I have decided that from now on I will be using my blog to also share my experiences in yoga and spirituality in general. I aim to post something “regularly”, but I don’t know yet how regular that will be!

There are two reasons for this decision. First and foremost, the fire of sharing my passion for something with others burns strong. That fire has always been there and led me to teaching others how to play the guitar in high school, becoming a maths tutor and a teaching assistant in my university days and teaching integrates yoga classes nowadays. Blogging seems to be a natural consequence of this fire.

Secondly, since I have been living in Taiwan I have not been anywhere for more than three months consecutively. This has made it slightly difficult to maintain a connection with those of you who are interested in my experiences with yoga and spirituality. I hope that this blog can be a tool to maintain or begin that connection.

If you are wondering why I don’t use “social” media for this purpose, it is because I don’t like them for various reasons. I had a Facebook account once, but it only survived for two weeks until I got fed up with it!

I will follow up this post with a post on my three weeks of silence practice that I finished yesterday.

I hope you will enjoy reading the blog as much as I will enjoy writing it!

親愛的朋友:

從現在起,我決定利用網誌分享我在瑜珈和靈修的經驗。我的目標是能夠「定期」更新,但目前更新的頻率尚無法確定。

之所以有此決定,主要有兩個原因。第一個原因,也是最主要的原因,是因為我心中那股與人分享的火焰正熊熊燃燒。我心中一直存在著這股火焰,它引領我在中學時期教人彈奏吉他,在大學時期擔任數學家教和助教,到現在教授整合式瑜珈課程。而書寫網誌,似乎是這股火焰燃燒下,再自然不過的結果。

第二,自從我搬到台灣後,我一直沒有在任何一個地方持續停留超過三個月的時間,這使得我難以和那些對我在瑜珈及靈修的經驗感到興趣的朋友們保持聯繫。我希望這個網誌能夠成維持這份聯繫的推手。

也許此時你心中產生一個疑問:為何不運用社群媒體呢?這是因為我並不喜歡社群媒體。過去我曾擁有臉書帳號,但才過了兩個星期,我就已經受夠了!

在這篇文章之後,我會分享我在昨天剛結束、為期三週的守靜經驗。我很開心能夠寫下分享,希望你們也一樣喜歡這個網誌!

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