Monthly Archives: July 2013

What we resist, persists

In Neale Donald WalschConversations with God it is written that what you resist, persists and I recently found a really nice illustration of this principle.

If you are a tennis fan like me, and perhaps even if you aren’t, you might have heard that Marion Bartoli became this year’s ladies’ Wimbledon champion. A BBC journalist made some ‘negative’ remarks about her looks before she was about to play the Wimbledon final. This angered a large number of the BBC audience, which led the BBC to issue a formal apology for the comments made by the journalist (source).

The reason that many people complained about the journalist’s comments is because they find somebody’s looks irrelevant in sports. They want to focus on the sports itself. This is what a somebody posted on the BBC news website for example:

Bartoli won because she was the best player over the fornight. Inverdale’s remarks were a disgrace, a player’s looks has nothing to do with how sucessful they will be on the court.

What I find really ironic about this is that it is actually not the BBC journalist’s comments that took the attention away from the tennis, but the reaction to those comments. If you read the comments section of the BBC article that reports on Bartoli’s victory at Wimbledon for example, you will find that most comments are reactions and dicussions on the remarks made by the journalist. These remarks are receiving so much attention that even politicians are now finding ways to use the comments to their benefit. I was surprised to find an article that continues on this subject on the front page of the evening newspaper as recently as a few days ago.

This is what is meant by the statement what we resist, persists. When we resist something, it persists because we don’t actually stop giving attention to it; instead we start giving negative attention to it. Anyone who practices meditation has experienced that attention is energy and that energy makes and keeps things alive. This is why it is not possible to instruct somebody to not think of the Eiffel Tower for example.

The most effective approach to change something we don’t find useful or meaningful is to accept what we don’t want and then to focus on what we do want.


I’ve joined Twitter 我加入twitter了!

As you may have already noticed, I’ve recently joined Twitter. I’ll mostly be using it to share some of my thoughts and musings. I’ll also use it to retweet the people who have inspired me to explore the inner aspects of life.

For the sake of convenience, I’ve added my ‘tweet feed’ to the sidebar. I hope you enjoy!




Reconnecting with myself

It has been almost 3 months since my last article on this blog. My meditation practice deteriorated in that period and because of that, so did my connection with myself. In this article I want to share why this happened.

In the period since the last article Elly and I have from Taipei to London. This was challenging and frustrating at times. To give you a sense of the situations we faced during the move:

  • I had lost my wallet, with my debit and credit cards in it, the day before we moved to London. It became quite difficult for us to pay the advance for our flat in London because of this. Fortunately for us, we had a friend in England who was able to lend us the money!
  • The flat we are renting in London was left behind in an unhygienic state by the previous tenants (there was a strong urine smell coming from several places in the house!). Our landlord was not in the country to inspect the flat before we entered it, so he had not brought the flat back to clean condition before we moved in.
  • Our ISP failed to send us our internet router twice (and almost thrice), which left us without internet access for many days. This is a difficult situation for me because I work from home, and without an active internet connection I cannot do anything at all.

What is more important than what happened, is how we dealt with what happened. Even though we were quite frustrated because we couldn’t settle down, I believe we kept a clear head and just dealt with what we were faced with.

Having said that, the situations we were encountering made sure that I was hardly focused on myself and very focused on everything around me. Meditation did not seem attractive to me at all. In fact, spirituality did not have a high priority at all (which explains my silence on this blog).

The first thing I dropped in this situation is the last thing I should have dropped: regular contact with myself (regular meditation). When I use the term regular meditation, I mean to say meditation at a fixed moment in the day for a fixed duration. My habit for example, is to meditate for one hour directly after waking up.

I was still meditating daily, but the duration and moment were all over the place. One day I would be meditating for 2 minutes immediately after dinner, on another day 20 minutes after breakfast, on again another day 15 minutes on the train. This lack of stability in my practice caused a lack of stability in my mind, and this stability is the stability that I need even more than the stability of my home situation. This lack of stability in my mind caused a vicious circle which I have experienced before in the past. The only method that I know to break this circle is deciding to practice regularly.

I’m happy to see and say that I have made that decision once again.