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A cause of guilt

I have been in the situation where somebody is experiencing guilt twice in the past week. I noticed in both situations, the guilt was caused by self-judgemental thinking. Because it wasn’t me who was experiencing guilt in the first situation, I will only write about the second situation in this article.

I have recently joined Kiva, a non-profit organisation with the aim of alleviating poverty via microfinancing. What it boils down to is that Kiva makes it possible for us to lend money to those in need1,2.

When you want to make a lend money via Kiva, you can browse through a list of people who want to borrow money. When I was browsing through this list a few days ago, I became aware of the fact that I can only support a handful of people without creating an unstable financial situation for myself; the consequence of this is that that I have to choose somebody from the list of borrowers to lend money to. Then I became very aware of the fact that if I choose to give money to one person, I am also choosing not to give it to any of the other people. I suddenly found myself with an enormous feeling of discomfort.

Because I was not being very aware, my thinking took over and I started to subtly condemn myself. I started thinking that I’m a bad person for choosing which person is more deserving to borrow my money and that I’m not wealthy enough to support everyone. Guilt started piling up in me and, luckily, that’s when I became aware of the absurdity of my thinking. I had become judgemental about myself.

I backtracked to my feeling of discomfort and I asked myself what unmet need of mine is at the root of it. The answer was that I simply want to live in a world where people aren’t in (absolutely unnecessary) poverty. Realising that my feeling of discomfort was an expression of care for others made it go away.

I was not satisfied with the discomfort going away. I needed to know why I went on a guilt trip. I came to the conclusion that I became judgemental of myself because I became very focused on what I was not able to do, and forgot all about (1) what I was able to do and (2) that there is no reason to have regrets when I have done what I can. This was actually the exact same type of thinking that I made somebody else aware of a day earlier!

We want to help others because it is our nature to do so. We feel wonderful when we are able to help others. At the same time it’s also our inherent in us that we are limited in what we can do at any given moment. This should not stop us from doing what we can up to our limits. It my experience that we will feel content when we have done what we can.

1: I want to give one reason why I feel comfortable with lending money to those in need, instead of donating it. When I say that I want to help somebody, my intention is to help that person to become independent. When somebody borrows money, he does so with the intention repaying his loan. In order to do that, the borrower needs a sustainable way of earning money; this is one aspect of being independent. I’m not concerned about being paid back.
2: Incidentally, consider using my Kiva invite page if you are interested in joining Kiva. By using this invitiation link, we will both have the opportunity to lend an additional $25, provided by a sponsor of Kiva, to any borrower of our choosing.


14/04/2013 – Beyond judgements 台南一日工作坊:超越批評

The insights that I have gained on the attitude of non-judgement have been among the most useful and practical to my personal development. That is the reason that here, on this blog, I have written a number of articles on this subject.

In the period that I have been writing these articles I have also been experimenting a lot with the ideas presented in them, and I have become confident that those ideas can serve as an important foundation of the personal philosophy of many people. That’s why I have been busy with trying to develop a one-day workshop around the subject of going beyond judgements.

On April 4th I will conduct this workshop for the very first time, in Tainan City, Taiwan. The feedback on this workshop will help me to further develop my ideas on how to conduct a workshop on this specific subject in the future.

Details on the April 4th workshop, such as costs, location and schedule can be found in Chinese via the following link: Beyond Judgements (April 4th, Chinese).

General details on the workshop can be found in English via the following link: Beyond Judgements (General, English).




有關這次工作坊的細節,如費用、地點以及課程表等中文資訊,可參考以下連結:Beyond Judgements (April 4th, Chinese)

相關英文資訊,請參考以下連結:Beyond Judgements (General, English)


Where there is smoke, there is fire.

The chance that it’s gonna go wrong does not exist, because I wasn’t comparing it with right.
~ Ricardo Semler

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As some of you may know, a recent UK visa application by Elly was refused. This was a trying time for her and we are glad that her following application, in which she had invested a lot of time, has been approved yesterday.

The experience has been a blessing for us, because the refusal allowed us to see the support and love of our friends and family who have written many declarations for us in support of Elly’s UK visa application. It made me realise that in times of need, the blessing of our relationships becomes evident. This realisation helped us to experience the whole situation with a more relaxed and open attitude.

On one day however, I did feel very frustrated by the situation. The frustration was not stimulated by the refusal, as you might think. My frustration came about when I was contemplating the surprise that many of our friends and family members had been expressing to us. We have heard many statements of the following kind:

  • How come they keep the good guys out, and not the bad guys?
  • I can understand that they want to keep out the wrong kind of people, but why are they keeping you out?
  • You guys aren’t fortune-hunters. They need to be refused, not you.

I suddenly understood that it is exactly this type of thinking, that there are some people who deserve to enter a country and some people who don’t, that contributes to the situation that Elly found herself in. I felt frustration because I desired more understanding that this thinking, and not the UK border control, is the real cause of our situation.

When we accept the idea that some people are ‘right’ enough to enter a country, then there must also be people who are not. If we accept this idea, then we must also accept that there will be some people who think that we are among the ‘wrong’ people. We cannot think that this is unreasonable, because it is impossible to come to a universal agreement on who is ‘right’ and who is ‘wrong’, because ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ are judgements and they are therefore not true.

I also started wondering why some of my European friends call non-western Europeans ‘fortune-hunters’ and at the same time never question what they have done themselves to ‘deserve’ to be born in an EU country. This thinking made me even more frustrated, because I clearly saw that my need for fairness for everyone is not being met in the world we are living in at the moment.

The frustration was a great messenger to me. When I saw that it was showing me my need for understanding and fairness, I welcomed it. When I welcomed it, it started to disappear.

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The truth about judgements 批評的真相

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I am a sweet tooth who absolutely loves chocolate. I have made a good friend here in Taiwan and it’s clear that it’s not our love for chocolate that brought us together; she absolutely hates it.

If you would ask the both of us to say something about chocolate, I might say “chocolate is delicious” and she might say “chocolate is disgusting“.

I have been asking people for their view on which of these statements is true. Up to this point I have only received the answers “both are true” and “both are neither true nor untrue“, neither of which is my answer.

I reject the answer that both are true because both statements are contradicting each other. The truth, in the highest sense, is not subject to personal point of view. In other words, if it is really the truth that chocolate is delicious, then it must be the case that that is the truth for everyone. That means that the statement chocolate is disgusting is automatically untrue.

I also reject the answer that both are neither true nor untrue, because that would mean that both statements contain no information in them at all. It would be the same as not expressing anything at all, but everyone seems to sense that at least something is being said.

My answer is that “both statements are untrue“. When I give that answer, some people have disagreed saying that both cannot be untrue, because at the very least both statements are personal truths. I agree that both statements are coming from some personal experience, but if you observe the statements chocolate is delicious and chocolate is disgusting, you will see that no personal experience is mentioned at all; the word “I” does not appear in any form in either statement.

I say that both statements are untrue because neither “being delicious” nor “being disgusting” are properties of chocolate. Chocolate is chocolate. It is more accurate to say that “experiencing delight” and “experiencing disgust” are possible experiences of somebody who eats the chocolate.

This is why I say that judgements are objectified subjective experiences; judgements are personal truths expressed as absolute truths.

So let’s say that we have understood the analysis above, and you would ask us again to say something about chocolate. I would say nothing about chocolate directly, but I would say “when I eat chocolate, I really enjoy the taste and she might say “When I eat chocolate, I really dislike the taste“.

I have also been asking people to let me know what they think of these two statements, and all have said so far that both statements are true. Contemplating this, I gained an insight that has helped me very much: When you judge, you lie. When you express your feelings, you don’t (lie).

This insight that judgements are lies has helped me to become more free from them, because we automatically let go of mental concepts when we understand them to be untrue. It has also helped me to gain an insight in what it means to express opinions, but I will leave that insight to another article.

I would like to conclude this article with an interesting observation for people who are familiar with the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. Yoga starts from love, because its first practice (ahimsa: non-violence) is love applied. Love means accepting all and rejecting none. Love is therefore free from judgements and since judgements are lies, the practice of ahimsa automatically leads to satya (truthfulness).

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如果你問我們兩個人有關巧克力的事,我可能會回答: 「巧克力真好吃!」而她可能回答: 「巧克力真噁心!」“.


我拒絕「兩個都是真的」 這個答案,因為這兩個說法彼此矛盾。就最更高意義而言,真實是不能取決於個人觀點的,也就是說,如果c巧克力真好吃這個說法r確實是真的,那麼應該每個人都是這麼認為。這表示巧克力噁心的說法,自然而然地是不真實實的。




這就是為什麼我會說,評斷是 客觀化的主觀經驗;評斷是個人的真實但卻被表達為絕對的真實。




我希望能夠以一項觀察,做為本篇文章的結尾,特別是提供給熟知帕坦加利的《瑜珈經》的朋友:瑜珈由愛開始 ,因為該經典所列的第一項練習(非暴力),正是愛的實際運用。愛意謂著接受一切,毫不拒絕,因此愛是免於評斷的。而既然評斷是謊言,那麼非暴力的練習自然而然地導致誠實(truthfulness)。


Leaving the fields of gold

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.
~ Rumi

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Love is the only reason that I have been writing about the attitude of non-judgement recently. Whenever I have left my judgemental thinking behind, I have only found love. And whenever I have interacted with people who left their judgemental thinking behind in that moment, I have only received love. Love makes what Wolfgang calls a meeting from soul to soul possible.

In the quote that starts this article, Rumi mentions a field that can be experienced when we go beyond thinking in terms of right and wrong. According to me, that field our home and the space inside of us where love dwells. Judging, thinking in terms of right and wrong, is the type of thinking that leads us out of that field.

You can verify this for yourself by observing how much love you find inside yourself for that something (or someone) you think to be wrong. You can intellectually understand why we do not find much love for ‘the wrong’, because there is an automatic rejection of that which we think to be wrong. With rejection comes division, whereas love is in unity.

There is very little we need to do to fall in love (again), but there is something we should not-do and that is judging. One important insight that I have had is that we need our inner strength to be free from judgements. To remain aware of our inner strength is therefore the key practice. We forget, and therefore do not use, our inner strength when we search outside ourselves that which is inside ourselves.

Here is one example of that. I once went out shopping with a married couple. Both partners are very sincere students of life and spirituality. It just so happened that the husband wanted to buy a lottery ticket on this day, and it was met with immediate disapproval of his wife. I asked her what was the matter and she replied:
“He’s been on the spiritual path for a long time and he’s still buying lottery tickets!”
She could see that I was very amused by her answer and she asked me why. I told her that I suddenly had this absurd image in my mind of an absent-minded God saying to her husband:
“You are not my son anymore because you have bought a lottery ticket! I will not enlighten you now!”
Luckily she also found this image quite amusing and I believe she has since then accepted her husband’s innocent distraction.

The point of the above story is that walking the spiritual path does not mean seeking anyone’s approval, not even (or especially not) God’s approval. Approval implies judgement.

Another way in which we forget our inner strength is when we do not accept our feelings. For example, I sometimes feel hurt when somebody says something to me in an angry tone. If I believe in such a moment that my pain is bad, then I will not listen to it and I will not understand that the pain is coming from within. That is the moment that I begin to resent, blame and/or judge the other; and I might get angry as well. If instead I see the pain as a signal that I was probably in need for some love or understanding, I can also see that in my moment of pain I was seeking that love and understanding in the other. That seeking in the other gives him power over my feelings. If he decides to act in a way that I like, I become happy because I am getting what I need. If he acts in a way that I do not like, I become sad or angry because I’m not getting what I need. The opportunity for me to become judgemental has arisen because I forgot my own strength.

In future articles I will share more of my personal philosophy of love. For now I want to end this article with one my favourite songs, Fields of Gold by Sting. Enjoy.

~ 魯米

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最近之所以持續討論非論斷的態度,其原因不外乎於愛。每當我放下批評式的思考,我總會找到愛。而當我和那些放下批評式思考的人們互動時,我總會接收愛。愛正是沃夫岡所說的靈魂與靈魂的相會 之所以可能的原因。




以下有一個例子。有一次我和一對夫妻一起外出購物。這對夫妻都是靈性修行者。剛好那天,丈夫想要買一張樂透彩票,但他的妻子很快地提出反對。當我問這位妻子為何反對時,她說: 他都已經修行那麼長的時間了,竟然還要買樂透!





在接下來的文章裡,我將會分享更多有我個人對愛的觀點。現在,在文章結尾,我和大家分享一首我最喜愛的歌曲之一:史汀的【黃金之地】(Fields of Gold)


Traffic light reasoning 紅綠燈思考法

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Dear friends,

Just yesterday one of my students rectification asked me one of the classical questions of spirituality. In this article I would like to share our dialogue about that question with you. The question usually goes something like this:

If we do not judge or condemn and instead accept life as it is, how then do we progress?

Me: You just used the word progress. Could you tell me what progress means to you?
Her: Progress to me means feeling happier.

Me: What I understand from what you say is that it is your opinion that it is good to feel happy and that it is bad to feel unhappy. That is not my opinion.
Her: Because life is a process and not a finished product?

Me: That is indeed a statement I have made, but I would like to make the meaning of this statement more clear to you.
You: OK.

Me: When we believe that feeling negative feelings is bad, we do not understand that life is actually communicating with us through our feelings.

If I would compare feelings to a traffic light, your statement would be equal to saying that it is good when the traffic light is green and bad when it is red. If it would really be the case that a green traffic light is good, it would be best if all traffic lights are green at all times. But I think it is easy to imagine that that situation would lead to chaos.

The truth is that neither the green nor the red light are good or bad. They are just signals used to communicate with us. When the traffic light is green it indicates to us that it is safe for us to continue our journey. When it is red it indicates to us that it is unsafe for us to continue. On the other hand, if we ignore the signals we are likely to create unpleasant situations for ourselves. Neither braking at a green light nor passing through a red light is safe.

It is much like this with our feelings. Positive feelings are an indication that we are ‘on the right path’, negative feelings indicate that we are not. Therefore negative feelings are not bad, they are our guides that help us to become aware of a situation, both within and without, that requires change.

The point is to accept everything, but that does not mean you should not change anything.

One thing that I would like to clarify further is the difference between pain and suffering. According to me pain is pain, while suffering is pain upon pain. If you ask me, pain is unavoidable but suffering is only due to our misunderstanding of a situation.

Pain upon pain means experiencing more negative feelings because we are experiencing negative feelings. If you would like a concrete example of this, I have talked about how I created pain upon pain for myself in one of my previous articles: Two wings to fly.

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: 當我們相信負面情緒是不好的,我們並未理解,人生更透過我們的情緒,與我們溝通。








No man ever steps in the same river twice 沒有人重複踏入同樣的河流

No man ever steps in the same river twice.
~ Heraclitus

It has now already been two months since completing my silence practice and I have been seeing many interesting developments in myself in this period. Not only has my attitude towards myself and others changed a lot, I am also understanding the philosophical principles behind this attitude change more deeply.

The biggest shift in my attitude has been that I accept myself and others far more completely than before. This shift comes from the fact that I understand that life is a process and not a finished product. The Greek philosopher Heraclitus expressed that principle in the quotation that you can find at the beginning of this article. Like the river, life is changing continuously. The old waters of the past have come and gone and new waters are continuously flowing in the river of life.

We often do not recognise this fact and then we start to think in absolutes. For example, when we feel pleasant around somebody’s behaviour, we tend to say “He is a lovely person”. This is what we usually call a compliment. When we feel unpleasant around somebody’s behaviour, we might say “She’s an idiot”. In both cases we have applied a label to a person that has an absolute nature; we feel conflicted when we feel unpleasant around the same person whom we called lovely before. We might say “You’re a horrible person. You have shown your true nature now!” All of the above statements only reflect that we have not really understood that the other person is like the river, always changing. All of the above statements are also not very informative, because nothing is revealed of the reasons why the statements were made in the first place.

When we believe in these uninformative absolutes, we can be easily led to negative experiences. I have been working with one of my ‘students’ rectification on his lack of confidence. When I asked him to give me an example of a scenario in which he lacks confidence, he mentioned job interviews. I asked him to role-play with me and the following conversation ensued:

Me: So… what reasons would you give me to hire you?
Him: Well… I’m quite good at such-and-such and I am really interested in it as well. I think that these skills are relevant to your line of business.
Me: I see! You are an expert at such-and-such then?
Him: Well… I wouldn’t say th
Me: Oh! If you are not an expert, why should I hire you?

The difficult point in this conversation lies in the word ‘expert’, a very uninformative absolute. It is absolutely not clear what capabilities the interviewer is asking for, how can such a question be answered? For the sake of not wanting to come across as an arrogant person, most people will say “I’m not an expert”. And I myself also do not feel very comfortable at calling myself an expert at something. So I proposed to my student the following:

Me: I see! You are an expert at such-and-such then?
Him: Well… I know quite well what my qualities and capabilities are, but I am not so clear on the qualities and capabilities you want somebody to have before you call him an expert. Could you tell me what they are, because then I can tell you if I have them or not.

With an answer of that nature, you refuse to play the judgement game. Instead you remain aware of the subjective nature of the ‘expert’ label. Then there is no reason to feel insecure because you can remain free from the judgements. I am not saying that you will have the qualities and capabilities you need to get the job, but at least that will be determined in a more fair way.

I have more examples of conversations like this. If you are interested in them, you can let me know in the comments and I’ll try to post a few more.

~ 赫拉克立特





: 好,有什麼理由讓我雇用你?
: 嗯,我很擅長這個和那個,而且我也對這些感到很有興趣。我想這些技巧對您的企業而言相當重要。
: 好,所以,你是這個和那個的專家
: 嗯,我不會這麼說
: 喔?如果你不是專家,我為什麼要雇用你?


: 好,所以,你是這個和那個的專家?
: :嗯,我很清楚自己的特質和能力,但我不太清楚,你希望在某個人身上找到什麼樣的特質和能力要求,才會稱這個人為專家。可不可以請你告訴我,那麼我就可以回答我是否擁有這些特質和能力。




Two wings to fly. 雙翅飛翔

God turns you from one feeling to another and teaches by means of opposites so that you will have two wings to fly, not one.
~ Rumi

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Last year after my silence practice, I felt like I had never felt before. My meditations were deep and powerful, my mind was calm, my energy level was high and my love for others was intense. I only had positive things to say about my practice. People were surprised when I told them that this year I experienced almost three weeks of intense mental suffering. I would like to share with you what I learned from that suffering and I hope it helps you in your meditation practices.

The two main causes of my suffering were self-condemnation and expectation. Let me try to explain how self-condemnation affected me first. One of the interesting things that I have observed in myself since beginning the practice of yoga, is a very strong idea that I need to improve myself, that I need to become perfect, so that I can experience ‘samadhi’, ‘enlightenment’ or some other over-my-head kind of thing. I do not know if that idea was there before I learned about spirituality or if the practice of yoga gave that idea a chance to manifest itself, but that is actually not so important.

What is important is that this idea of having to improve myself is based on another idea: “I am not good enough”. This idea is one of the most dangerous things I have encountered in my life. The moment that I started accepting this idea, I stopped accepting myself. Not accepting yourself is fundamentally unyogic; the first practice of yoga is the practice of ahimsa (non-violence). Practicing ahimsa means practicing love. Love means accepting all and rejecting none, that means accepting yourself as well as others.

Why does the practice of yoga begin with accepting all and rejecting none? One reason is that meditation that starts from “I am not good enough”, turns into a frantic experience of trying to become something, trying to achieve something and trying to do something. But meditation only happens when effort slowly stops and a calm, relaxed, concentrated, peaceful and joyous awareness remains. The only thing that you become when meditating from the “I am not good enough” idea is depressed and/or frustrated!

That depression and frustration is exactly what I experienced this year. And I experienced it very intensely. Even though I had already let go of a lot of my self-condemnation, that which is still present in me came forward in a very strong way.

There are two reasons that I was able to learn from my self-condemnation. One reason is that by experiencing the madness of trying to achieve something for a long period of time, I began to understand the uselessness of it. Another reason is that, whenever it was needed, Wolfgang reminded me to stop with condemning myself.

Some self-condemnation still comes up in me every now and then, but now it does not influence me as it did before. I do not know if a tidal wave of self-condemnation will rise in my mind on another occassion, but I also do not fear it.

The second cause of my suffering was my expectation. A great teacher of meditation once said that he has observed something very interesting in almost every practicioner of meditation. The first time a newcomer meditates, he has a wonderful experience, the second time he meditates, he has wonderful expectations. The point is that meditation is great the first time because there is no expectation, and the second time it is not because of expectation.

Even though I knew all of this, it still happened to me. Last year I had a wonderful experience and I expected it to be like that again this year. It was in fact worse, I was expecting it to be better! And in this way I created an experience of frustration for myself. I was not getting what I expected (and desired), so I got frustrated.

The most interesting part is that I was realising that expectation is causing problems for me, so I tried to let go of my expectation with the expectation that my meditation will improve! It shouldn’t be hard to imagine how my attempts only blew up in my face because of this.

As with the self-condemnation, I began to understand the uselessness of my expectations better by experiencing the fruits of my expectations intensely. And again, Wolfgang was there to help and remind me of the suffering I was creating for myself.

What’s more, I misunderstood my suffering as me having some sort of defect (more self-condemnation), because I thought that meditation should make me feel wonderful (expectation). A few days before my practice came to an end, I was free of this vicious circle because I realised that everything I was going through is simply a part of my development and learning process. The realisation came from that wonderful Rumi quote that you can find at the beginning of this post, I’d like to invite you to reread it. When I experienced freedom from this vicious circle, I understood the importance of mental freedom, the subject of my previous post.

With this I’d like to end the sharing of the lessons learned from silence this year. Do let me know if it the posts on my silence practice are helpful to you in any way!

~ 魯米

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我之所能夠從自責中學習,有兩個原因。其一,由於經歷過試著達成某件事的瘋狂狀態,我開始了解這有多麼沒有意義。另一個原因是,無論何時,只要我需要, Wolfgang(沃夫岡)總會提醒我,要我停止自責。









Sing like the birds sing. 如鳥兒般歌唱

I want to sing like the birds sing, not worrying about who hears or what they think.
~ Rumi

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Dear friends,

Now I have the time to complete the sharing of the lessons learned during my silence practice this year. What I want to share on the blog here is a bit too much to share in one post, so there will be one follow-up post to this one.

The most important thing that I learned in my practice this year, is the importance of remaining mentally free. When I use the term ‘mentally free’, I do not mean something over-your-head. I mean being free from ideas of how life should be and accepting life as it presents itself to you, by remaining free from judgements and expectations. Allow me to illustrate this concept in this post, and explain how I learned about it in the next post.

I have observed that many yoga teachers and students have a very strong idea that yoga, and especially meditation, should be practiced seated on the floor in a cross-legged posture. Some will even go so far as to say that using a chair for meditation is not yoga and that it is wrong! This leads to two kinds of unnecessary suffering:

  1. Physical suffering. In our current times, we are not used to sitting on the ground and we also do not have a lot of physical exercise. The body is then not prepared to sit on the floor, and especially not for a prolonged period of time. When an unprepared body is suddenly made to assume a cross-legged posture, the body will hurt like crazy! Moreover, meditation will simply not happen when the body is suffering without reason.
  2. Mental suffering: First of all, a student will practice a cross-legged posture under the duress of his or his teacher’s idea of what yoga is. Practicing under duress disturbs meditation in a many ways, some of which are hard to notice. Secondly, since the student is not able to practice according to that idea in a comfortable way, he will slowly start to think he is a bad student. I will explain the problems of self-condemnation from my personal experience in the next post.

Being mentally free in the example I just gave means letting go of the idea that meditation should be practiced seated on the floor. Learning to sit on the ground is not essential for meditation. I do not mean to say that meditation on the floor does not have certain benefits, but the choice to learn to sit on the ground should be made

  • freely, willfully and joyfully;
  • free from self-judgements and expectations;
  • when the circumstances allow for it.

My experience is that this kind of mental freedom makes the experience of life wonderful. It does require the courage to let go of all external support, becoming self-reliant and claiming responsibility for how you feel and this is not always easy.

~ 魯米

Part 1
Part 2 – 本文
Part 3





  1. 身體折磨:在我們的時代裡,我們並不習慣於坐在地上,也沒有太多的運動。我們的身體於是尚未準備好坐在地板上,尤其無法坐上一段較長的時間。當一個沒有準備好的身體突然間被迫成盤腿坐姿時,我們的身體會痛疼得不得了!再者,當身體這樣無來由地痛苦時,我們是無法進入靜坐狀態的。
  2. 心理折磨:首先,在老師或本身對於瑜珈的概念的壓力之下,一個學生會以盤坐的姿勢練習。然而,在受迫的狀況下練習,在很多方面而言,都會干擾靜坐,有些甚至難以察覺。第二,因為學生無法根據自己對瑜珈的想法而舒服地練習,他會漸漸地認為自己是個壞學生。在下一篇文章中,我會從自己的經驗裡,分享有關自責的問題。


  • 抱持自由、自願、喜樂的態度;
  • 不帶任何評斷和期待;
  • 在情況允許之下.